Pardon Me

 

All new born babies are equally sweet-looking and all corpses look alike!

We are all basically equal. Summing up what one has got, with what one has’nt got, the end-total is nearly same for all of us. We may be riding different roller-coaster rides during our varied life spans, but it all evens out in the end. Seen through the prism of humanity, we are all equal in the beginning and in the end. Life is a great leveller, just like death. The route to death may be cruel or painful but it is made so that all life has to wither out and vanish as per the heavenly mystery, quite on the pattern of mathematical calculus. In this integration of life all differentiations get neutralized and all those who cross the finishing line (of life) are equals in that sense.

So, when we are all equal and “One” in that sense, temporarily “affixed” together on this swirling planet in the time-space of the Universe, and essentially hurtling towards the same end-destiny, does it make sense to nurture animosity towards one another during the wavering miniscule leaves of our lives, when anytime we can drop from the bough. When only the impermanence of things is permanent, why do we develop, enhance and permanently breed this self-harming hatred within us. Why cant we forget and forgive those who have “hurt” us ?

Let us say that a relative, friend, boss or acquaintance has “hurt” us, and let us down. We feel that our due has been denied to us, and in our righteousness we feel wronged and start playing the blame game. The villain of the piece gets placed on our mental pedestals, and we start the process of Hating.  Some “hurt” people feel dejected and others vow to take revenge. Whatever the approach, we all ensure that the “mental hurt” never dies down within us. Daily we recapitulate the hurt and inject the dosage of animosity and anger within our veins, and feel right in doing so. Little do we realize that this train of thought derails ourselves only, and no one else! We lose our mental equanimity, and acquire a warped view of things. The bottled-up frustration is often vented at the wrong occasions, Very often our thoughts turn illogical and irrational, culminating in downright undesirable behaviour on our part.

Lets Mouse-click now to the solution. Agreed, very difficult, but nevertheless a solution. The fastest antidote to the slow poison of animosity hatred and vengeance is Pardon. Agreed that its easier said than done, its definitely worth a solid try! Thinking laterally, why is it that we all expect to be forgiven our own sins, but we cannot easily forgive those who sin against us. Even the Biblical prayer exhorts us to Forgive thus :

 “Our Father, who art in Heaven…… Forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us.”

So it has been desired that one should learn to be forgiving. Besides, it is said that  “To err is human, and to forgive, divine.” Pardoning someone may be extremely difficult, but its after-effects that percolate to all concerned, can be truly remarkable. Grant of pardon soothes, uplifts and strengthens the granter and makes him level headed too. By giving the gift of “Forgiveness”, one not only reduces his own pain, but liberates the “enemy” too. One’s mindset and perspective turns upside down if one is able to truly forgive others. A positive-ripple-effect starts. Isnt the gift of Pardon really required in todays stressful, vengeful and  tensed up world? Don’t we owe that to ourselves. And to humanity?

If I sound too preaching, Pardon Me.